The Signs of a Bad Therapist are Clear

By | May 24, 2019

Going therapy can be a beautiful fulfilling experience. Everyone has different reasons for seeing a therapist, but the one they share in common is they want to get better. Whether you’re living with depression, anxiety, PTSD, Bipolar Disorder or Schizophrenia, you want to live a productive and happy life. When you see a therapist for the first time, you might not know what kind of provider you see because it’s challenging to figure that out preemptively at times. However, over time, you’ll develop a relationship with this person. You’ll start to trust them – hopefully – and will reveal emotional, intimate details of your life to them. The goal of therapy is to be able to release emotions and learn skills. If you can do that, then you’re doing it right. Make sure that if you’re in therapy, you feel like you’re able to be honest with your therapist because honesty is what will lead to a productive therapy session. Then again, your participation is only part of the therapy session. The other half is how good your therapist is. What happens when you realize you have a bad therapist?

What makes a ‘bad’ therapist?

A lousy therapist is someone who doesn’t listen to you. They take it for granted that you’re their client. A lousy therapist is someone who doesn’t value the relationship between the two of you and acts as though they’re superior to you. Someone who isn’t a good therapist doesn’t listen to their clients, and they might also be someone who inappropriately tells you what to do. Although you might go to therapy for guidance regarding specific situations, treatment isn’t necessarily a place for advice. Therapists should value their clients, the therapeutic relationship that they have, and they should show through action that they genuinely want to help their clients.

A bad therapist doesn’t want to help their clients

A bad therapist is someone that doesn’t genuinely want to help their clients. They don’t have their heart in it; they’re just there for an ego lift. Maybe, they feel like they know more than you do. Perhaps, they have a God complex, or they feel like they’re getting something from telling other people what to do and they’re not in it to help other people. You’ll figure out if this therapist that you’re seeing is in it for the wrong reasons the longer that you develop a relationship with them. If you start to notice that you’re seeing somebody that is not an ethical therapist, it’s time to decide to leave immediately.

Unethical therapists

You can be a bad therapist, but there’s a difference between being unethical and being bad. If you’re a terrible therapist, maybe you’re not helping your clients. An unethical therapist is crossing boundaries and shouldn’t be working with clients. An unethical therapist would be someone who tries to have an intimate relationship with their clients or become their friend, and this is not something that a therapist should do. A therapist is there to help their clients, but they’re not there to fraternize with them.

A good therapist

A good therapist cares about their clients. They’re somebody who wants to help their client succeed and do well in life. They’re dedicated to listening and providing feedback that they believe will help their clients. A good therapist is someone who you want to see, and an excellent therapist is who you want to work with so that your problems can melt away. Whether you’re working with someone online or in your local area, you don’t need a bad therapist; you deserve a good one.

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